If you find that every time you schedule a playdate for your toddler, they become a bit reluctant in playing with others or even going to the playdate at all? Shy toddlers are not uncommon, and many toddlers opt to observe their surroundings from the sidelines. Children who are slow to warm up are more careful around new people and with new experiences. You might be really worried about this, and that’s perfectly normal to feel. However, you don’t need to panic, as there are things you can do to help your bashful toddler.
There’s Nothing Wrong With Your Baby
Many times, extroverts are lauded for being the life of the party, but that doesn’t mean that introverts don’t have anything to offer. In fact, there’s really no preferred temperament. Many shy kids grow up to be people who think before they speak and who observe situations before diving in. Those are fantastic traits that should be nurtured, not stamped out.
You Need To Invest Some Time
Shy kids need time to get comfortable with new surroundings, especially since they tend to feel comfortable with their immediate caregivers. They also tend to be creatures of habit and play with the same toys. When you introduce your toddler to new experiences and people, it’s important to take your time. They might need some extra time to get used to new situations, and planning things like a visit to a school or meeting with teachers ahead of time can be huge. Prepare your child for what they can expect with these new experiences.
They Need Consistency
Shy toddlers often need consistency in their lives, whether it’s sticking to a daily routine or wearing their favorite shoes. Sometimes getting them comfortable with trying new things can lead to stress and crying, but that doesn’t mean they won’t ever learn to try new things. Just know that this might not be instant, and that consistency is the key here.
Helicopter Parenting Won’t Help
You might feel the need to dive right in and protect your shy toddler and shield them from new experiences and people whenever possible. However, as much as your intentions are good, you might be harming them more than helping. Instead, you should encourage your child to try new things. Even if they throw a tantrum, remain positive and gentle, and keep on encouraging them.
Avoid Shaming And Labeling
It’s important to remember that labels like “shy” can sometimes be damaging for kids, so make sure to avoid using these terms, especially in a derogatory way. Telling them things like “stop being so shy” and “I wish you weren’t so quiet around people” might make them retract into their shells even more and can impact their emotional growth. Make sure you let your slow to warm kid that there’s nothing wrong with them and that you’re there to support them.